Online dating is stressful, there are no two ways about it. Building up a connection with someone without actually knowing them is a especially difficult when you are basing said connection off of a few well chosen pictures on their profile. Now don’t get me wrong I am all for using a few filters here and there, even the blemish removal tool on a pesky spot or two, but where do you draw the line?
With apps that can give you a smaller nose, bigger boobs and a perfect pout in under 30 seconds, it’s easy to get carried away and show the dating world a version of yourself that isn’t entirely truthful. Today I wanted to shatter that ‘perfect selfie’ illusion and tell you how to take the real perfect selfie for your www.nostringsdating.net profile:
Lighting is your best friend
Be that natural sunlight, golden hour or with a little help from a mobile ring light, lighting will take the most simple selfie from 0 to 100 instantly. I personally think it’s hard to beat that golden hour light (thats the first hour after sunrise and the first hour before sunset, when the sun gives a natural warm light) it flatters everyone, acts as a natural filter and I personally think it has a way of enhancing your features, I find my freckles look more pronounced and my blue eyes pop under that beautiful natural lighting.
For a similar affect I really love using a selfie ring light, it means I can use the front facing camera on my phone and it doesn’t look like a fuzzy picture, it comes with different settings so you can pick the warm version for that golden hour affect and it helps if you are selfie ready but the gloomy English weather has let you down!
In your element
You can have the best lighting in the world but if you’re not comfortable it will show all over your face. I think the most beautiful selfies are usually candids, they are taken when you are truly relaxed and happy and these are the selfies you want on your dating profile. Maybe you have a passion for travelling or love visiting museums, these should be your go to selfies, they showcase you when you are the most you, completely in your element doing what you love. It’s so important to remember that although physical attraction is a vital part of any relationship, it doesn’t just come from a sexy selfie, the picture you took of yourself makeup free, smiling like crazy on that beautiful beach walk is just as alluring as one you took before big night out.
Tweak not cheat
As I already mentioned, editing your selfies is totally fine, up to a point. I often do things like warm or cool down a photo, remove an eyelash or a pesky spot or even add a filter to brighten up a dull lighting day. But I leave it there, and the reason for that is simple: I am who I am, an edited version will attract the wrong sort of person for me and lead to an embarrassing catfishesque encounter that I don’t want or need. It is so important to remember when you are using an adult dating site you are trying to find someone who is attracted to you, not a heavily edited version of yourself!
Variety really is the spice of life
I mentioned before that I like to include a few different photos of my self on my dating profile, and yes that included a nice night out selfie where I look half decent (I hope!) If you have a photo of yourself that you makes you feel gorgeous then go ahead and share it! Took a photo when you were dolled up for a big event? Put it on your profile! Even a quick selfie you took on top of the tourist tour bus in Paris (see my selfie above!) The point of showcasing lots of different photos of yourself it to show a more rounded version of you. We are so much more than a single image on a dating profile and that variety of photos really helps to round out your online presence!
So there you have it, my top tips on creating the perfect selfie for your online dating profile. I really hope this post was helpful, but more importantly I hope it helped you to realise that true beauty really does shine from within you, don’t get me wrong filters help but that natural confidence and passion isn’t something you can edit in, it’s all you, and when you meet the right person, they will see that before anything else!