Being single is often considered tough. It’s tough to meet new people, tough to form those instant connections and in this busy busy world, it’s tough to keep that initial spark from going out. Well add a global pandemic in to the mix and lets be honest, dating is no longer just tough, it’s nearly impossible!
For a single girl who hasn’t dated in a while, casual dating is something that appeals to me. I can’t imagine wanting anything serious right now, life is stressful enough living in a vulnerable household with the possibility of a second lockdown looming, but the idea of just dating, flirting, heck just chatting with someone on a more casual basis seems….well for want of a more profound word, nice.
Meeting people regularly for drinks and casual dating is obviously not an option right now and so a whole new industry of dating is tentatively emerging, casual virtual dating! Sites like nostringsdating net specialise in arranging dates for people looking for something less serious and it’s something I really champion. Personally I think a lot of the focus when it comes to dating is on it leading somewhere and that it has to be serious or long term otherwise it’s considered a waste of time. Well I don’t agree with that, I think we can all see the world has changed dramatically over the past decade or so, we are no longer a 9-5 society and relationships don’t all have to end in a diamond ring and big house. Casual dating for people who are dipping their toes back into the socialising world can be an invaluable tool in building self confidence, meeting new people and dare I say it…in just having some no strings fun!As we start to move past the idea of a ‘post covid’ world and accept it as part of our day to day lives, the way we date will definitely have to adjust. I think it’s inevitable that a lot of it will now move online, virtual dating and meetups are becoming the norm and a lot of dating sites have the option to video chat, specify virtual contact only and even encourage you to share pictures and chat through their apps. Video calling has often been used by people in long distance relationships and whilst it might not provide that in person ‘spark’ test it does allow you to form friendships, flirtations and rapport with a variety of people that you might not meet in a more traditional date setup.
I still remember when the idea of meeting on an adult dating site was considered really rare but now it’s pretty rare to meet someone in those ‘traditional’ ways isn’t it? I think that speaks a lot to our digital consumption, so much of our lives play out online now it was only a matter of time until dating became a part of our digital world. I think a lot of sites will start to integrate the way we use social media into our dating profiles, some may even specialise in matching people based on profile similarities, places that you’ve both tagged as favourite holiday destinations, songs you both have on your favourite playlists, food you regularly talk about on your stories, these are all things that make you, you and matching you with people that share those passions would be a really interesting and effect way of connecting you with likeminded people.
I personally think it’s going to be a real adjustment from what has become the traditional dating website model (match up, meet up and potentially hook up!) but it’s going to make for a really interesting way of connecting with different people more regularly and in a safe (socially distanced setting) and lets face it, couldn’t we all do with some more fun right now? I know I’ll be giving it a go, as soon as I find the perfect lighting for a casual virtual date situation in my house of course…priorities and all that!