Following on from my previous posts about online dating I thought it would be a great idea to share some of my top tips on creating an online dating profile! Now this isn’t a Linkedin style profile and I think that’s where a lot of people go wrong, your online dating profile should be designed to attract the sort of people you want to date as opposed to just a place to humble brag about your life (harsh but we have all seen those dating profiles and lets be honest, they don’t exactly make you swipe right do they?)
It is a space to create a more rounded version of yourself, beyond just your picture, it allows you to show what your passions and interests are and to show your personality to a perspective match! So here are my top 5 tips for creating the perfect dating profile.
Before I share my top tips I want to just make sure you remember the most important thing about your dating profile…there is no such thing as perfect, yep you read that right. You will never be perfect for every single person scrolling through datings sites like Match Me Happy, think about all the Hollywood heartthrobs there are and how many you just don’t ‘get’ the appeal of.
I can promise you now, they are totally cool with that because there are plenty of people who would climb over hot coals for a date with them, and that’s exactly the same for you. My Mum always says ‘no one is perfect, but someone is perfect for you’ and I totally believe that so remember that when your dating online, it’ll make it a lot more fun!
1. Have a profile picture purge
If your pictures are heavily filtered group photos from your uni days it might be time to upgrade. I suggest going for a nice mixture of group photos showing you doing things you love (after a single shot of you – no one likes playing the ‘which one are you’ game) and a few naturally shot, unedited photos of yourself.
When I say unedited I don’t mean leaving in the spinach in your teeth or that monster spot that wouldn’t budge for a week, I mean don’t resort to heavily smoothing out your skin or digitally losing 40 pounds/growing 3 cup sizes. It’ll either attract the wrong kind of person or it’ll attract someone great but someone who thinks you are the wrong sort of girl as you’ve lied in your profile. It’s a waste of your time (and theirs) and you deserve someone who sees the real you and thinks you are amazing.
2. Say what you are looking for
Love talking politics? Do you travel a lot or spend your weekends trying new local restaurants and bars? Share that in your profile! It’s so important to let people know what you want from a partner, too often we use our profiles to make ourselves appear more attract to someone else and actually this is the place to speak up and share what you need to be attracted to someone, not the other way around!
I make sure I share that I am a history lover, I spend a lot of time at museums but I also love real life crime documentaries and learning to cook. These are passions that make me, well me and I want someone who can appreciate them and maybe even share in them.
3. Talk about your near _ future plans
Planning on travelling (post-covid obviously) for a year? Moving to another city or starting a masters? These are all amazing for your personal growth but when you’re dating it can be such a bummer to find out 5 dates in someones moving to the other side of the country. Be honest about your near-future plans, you might find someone who wants to travel too or is also planning a big move up north just like you are. It’s a simple thing but giving people information about your intentions is so important when you sign up to free dating sites.
4. Share a few dislikes
I am very anti-drugs, I don’t date people who take drugs or who ‘dabble’ and that’s non negotiable for me. I also don’t like people who say things like ‘not looking for something serious’ or ‘just looking for fun’. I’m no opposed to either of these things but I don’t like having sanctions put on me before we’ve even gone for a cheeky Nando’s.
I like a more organic dating style and if that progresses that’s great, if it doesn’t? Thats fine too! These are things I am sure to mention in my profile because it instantly filters out the wrong sort of person for me. Whatever your deal-breakers are, be sure to share them so you find someone who is perfect for you.
5. Share an embarrassing story
I love reading someones embarrassing stories on their profile, being able to laugh at yourself is hugely important in any relationship and it instantly bonds you with someone when you realise you aren’t the only person to fall over in the middle of the street for absolutely no reason (true story: I just buckled and my Tesco bags went everywhere still the most mortifying thing that’s ever happened to me!)
Reading peoples embarrassing moments is also an instant ice breaker and in a world of online dating humble bragging, it’s so endearing to see someone’s funny side!
So those are my 5 top tips for creating the perfect dating profile. I really hope it was helpful and if you do have a refresh be sure to let me know what you’ve changed up or added to make your profile perfectly imperfect and authentically you!